Why Accepting Help is a GIFT!
What does that mean?
Well, in my work I see many people who are chronic givers, they tend to put others above their own. They’re often seen in customer service, aged care, and the not-for-profit sector. In a way, that’s ok, because these are occupations that people who NEED to look after others are attracted to.
Their belief is that “you should put others above yourself”. On the surface, this appears fine, but there are several problems with that approach.
Compulsive givers (self-sacrificing) are unable to put forward their own needs and at work tend to get taken advantage of in terms of pay and conditions. Why? Because they find setting personal boundaries difficult.
Do you know anyone like this? Are YOU like this?
Without any pushback, some people will keep taking without giving back. If you can’t assert your own needs, saying no to others is hard. It may also be an approval seeking behaviour.
When you love to help others, not allowing anyone to help you is stopping them from doing what you love to do. That is why accepting (not demanding) help is a gift well worth giving.
And all it takes is a simple “Thank you”.
James Bryden
